Monica attended Holy Mass daily and cultivated the virtue of patience. She advised other wives, who were beaten, to hold their tongues around their husbands, rather than proudly withstand them. Eventually, she converted Patricius to Christianity and calmed his violent nature. Monica bore three , among them Augustine. Augustine made her very happy with his successes as a scholar and teacher, but he also made her very ashamed with his debauchery. For ten years, Augustine lived with his mistress and subscribed to Manichaeism. Monica sent Augustine to a bishop to be convinced of his errors. The bishop, however, was unable to prevail, and he advised St. Monica simply to continue to pray for her son. He told her, "it cannot be that the son of these tears should perish." When her spouse Patricius died, Monica joined Augustine in Italy. There, some time later, she had the pleasure of seeing her son, at the age of 33, converted and baptized by Ambrose. Not long after, as she was preparing to return to Africa, she died at the age of 56 at the port of Ostia. As recounted by Augustine, before she died she told him: "There was indeed one thing for which I wished to tarry a little in this life, and that was that I might see you an orthodox Christian before I died. My God hath answered this more than abundantly, so that I see you now made his servant and spurning all earthly happiness.